No meaningful relationship I’ve ever had has come from an app, they’ve all been through connections I’ve made IRL. As frowned upon as it seems to be, I met my fiancée at an old job. I’m not what you would call conventionally attractive and find the whole online dating thing a bit awkward so IRL seems to be where I shine in that regard because my other qualities come through and not just my looks. At the other end of the spectrum, one of my sisters met her fiancée through an app and seems to have found several meaningful relationships before him through apps too.
I think that fighting the apps is a losing battle - as third spaces continue to disappear people have to meet somewhere. I think there’s room for them in the dating space. However I agree that as a society we need to tackle the toxic expectations they create, and we also need to remember that just like every other big tech platform, they make money from your engagement.
I’m not sure how accurate that’s going to be compared to carbon dating but I’ll give it a go I guess.