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  • Catfishing is the term for pretending to be someone you are not, usually online, via the use of fake or stolen pictures, identity details, life story, etc., usually for the reason of trying to lure someone else into a romantic relationship and scam them.

    But … there are hints here what this person is doing kind of… escapes that, is even more concerning.

    This person seems to simply revel in the idea of being someone they are not… just for that purpose.

    Just for the enjoyment of, or preference toward being a comoletely different person, with no specific aim beyond that.

    And we also see they are willing to lie about this when called out, and gaslight people about it.

    So, we’ve got some kind of delusion/dysphoria going on.

    ‘Transracial’ is … not a real thing, in the way this person likely means it.

    Disclaimer: Yes, race is an arbitrary, nebulous social construct… but people act as if it isn’t, we live in a society, blah blah blah.

    What transracial actually means is basically involving or encompassing multiple different races.

    A group or movement or dialogue that involves many races is transracial.

    A person who is multiracial, ie, has a racially varied ancestry, could be said to be transracial.

    What this person is probably using it to mean is that they think they are actually a completely different race than whatever society or their immediate family told them they are, or themselves at one point identified as.

    Ie, a completely white person saying ‘actually, I’m black’ or a black person saying ‘actually, I’m Japanese’, when each of these example cases has no actual ancestry that would validate that.

    So… more delusion/dysphoria going on.

    Finally… they use the term ‘targeted individual’.

    This term (or its acronym TI) is basically only used by paranoid schizophrenics who are completely convinced they have been chosen to be harassed by … some group of dedicated individuals with access to essentially supernatural technology that goes beyond science, as well as seemingly limitless resources and manpower.

    They will use this terminology and basically conspiracy theory to explain the instrusive thoughts they have, voices they hear, nonsensical actions they undertake, things that disappear or appear that they can’t explain, etc.

    Put all of this together and you have what seems to be a paranoid schizophrenic, who is manipulatve and possesive of other people whom they fantasize about, at least one of whom is a minor.

    I am not a psychologist, I am not formally diagnosing this person, but this is extremely concerning behavior, and they should probably be evaluated by an actual professional.

    This is way more concerning than just ‘that guy’s a creep’ or ‘that guy’s a loser’.





  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.ziptome_irl@lemmy.worldMe_irl
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    It’s a complete ripoff, basically any grocery store that has an actual bakery offers roughly equivalent quality bread at far, faaar lower prices, often the same situation with sandwiches if the grocery store has an active deli.





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    I’m mixing up some loose mathematical / set theory vocabulary with imagery of a sexy time.

    If you have an infinite number of gay men with dicks in other men’s butts, stacked, in sequence, on an infinite sized floor or bed…

    The straight version of this is guy gal guy gal pairs forever, with the gals having strap-ons in the guys asses, and the guys having their dicks in I guess either the gals pinks or stinks.

    A ‘constraint’ is very loosely in set theory / math terms … basically a way of saying… these formulas work, this equation has existing solutions, but only if we ‘constrain’ some of the factors.

    So I am ‘constraining’ the vast amounts of people who are just straight, to people who are straight and also kinky enough to jump into the strap on / pegging conga line.

    Unironically, that doesn’t involve any homo, as no gals are touching gals, and no guys are touching guys.

    EDIT: Its sort of a very simple kind of aperiodic tiling.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aperiodic_tiling

    Why, yes, I am both autistic and have a dirty mind, how could you tell?




  • Because the way to improve skills, athleticism, ability to play an instrument, basically anything…

    Is practice.

    Training.

    Sure, some people are naturally better or worse at certain things than others.

    Not everyone will turn out equally better given the same amount and style of training.

    But all of the initial different starting aptitudes at a certain skill vanish into meaninglessness against a person who consistently trains and practices, that person will be considerably more talented than any ‘natural’, 99% of the time.

    Also… some people, most people do things because they enjoy doing them.

    Not because they need or want to be better than others.

    If your goal is to have fun, develop a skill, stay in shape, have fun… you’re always winning, even if you aren’t literally the best.

    … And if you do try to always be the literal best… there’s almost always someone better if you keeo advancing into higher skilled competition levels and even if you are truly the best… you won’t be forever. You’ll get an injury, make a mistake, or just get old.


  • From your other reply, it seems to me that you’re likely a sociopath, which basically means you are by default a narcissist, as you only see the world in how it relates to you, as opposed to how others relate to you, and others to others.

    You genuinely seem to have no ability to reflexively empathize with others, neither in a real time interaction, nor afterward.

    You are your only emotional frame of reference, which means all of socializing basically is just a game you play to achieve some goal or goals… which is the same thing as saying, you do not comprehend how socializing could be anything other than a game of manipulating people, which other people are just worse at than you.

    Apparently with the DSM V, sociopathy and psychopathy have basically been redefined, together, into ASPD.

    So… yeah.

    Please see a therapist.


  • That’s called being a sociopath, more recently, Anti Social Personality Disorder.

    https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/sociopath#sociopath-vs-psychopath

    Your sense of morality revolves only around whatever has a beneficial or detrimental effect on yourself, you seem to genuienly have nearly no innate concept of how socializing works.

    As far as I know, there’s no way you can … ‘fix’ sociopathy, just as with myself there’s no way I can ‘fix’ being autistic.

    But… that doesn’t mean you can’t learn your own coping skills, learn the general rules of acceptable behavior, learn how a ‘normal’ or neurotypical mind generally works, and how that differs from how your own mind works.

    I actually had a friend who was a diagnosed sociopath.

    No innate ability to reflexively emphasize with others.

    But he did the work.

    He went to therapists and counselors, he learned to stop and ask people how his actions made them feel, he learned what generally is and is not socially acceptable, he learned how to be a more pleasant person to be around, how humble himself and own responsibility for his actions and the things he’d say to other people.

    He didn’t want to harm people, and you may not either.

    But he had to put in significantly more work than the average person to do so, and you likely will as well, if you do actually want to be able to have functional relationships with other people.




  • Yes, inability to control your mood, constantly screaming at people, being pissed off and aggressive basically all the time, and being a rude asshole all the time is a major turn off.

    I grew up in a family like this, dated a good number of people like this, then eventually figured out: Oh, I have CPTSD and low self esteem from being chronically abused by most of the people in my life, for most of my life, I don’t actually have to put up with their bullshit.

    You sound extremely reminiscent of my abusive female ex-partners, full of rage, suspicious of and less friendly toward women (likely because you view them all as competition and/or incompetent), and most importantly, you’re a completely unnacountable and irresponsible narcissist hypocrite.

    You do understand why people don’t react well to you being aggressive and pissy all the time.

    My friend doesn’t talk to me as much and I really don’t get why because even when I’m “aggressive”, it’s tough love and I’m trying to help them.

    This reveals that you do understand that your friend doesn’t like it when you are aggressive.

    But you rationalize away your aggressiveness as the cause of your friend avoiding you with the intention underlying your action.

    Your intention doesn’t matter.

    What you actually do, how you actually do it is what matters.

    If I perform a surgery with the intention of saving someone’s life, but I fuck up when I use a chainsaw instead of a scalpel to make the initial incision, my patient is now dead, and I am responsible, regardless of my intention.

    No one has any obligation to deal with your anger issues other than you.

    No one owes you their friendship or affection, de facto, just because you believe they do.

    You should seek intensive therapy, probably look for a CBT specialist, at the very least, learn how to self reflect and apologize for doing things that make others flee from you…

    …otherwise you’ll soon find that your anger issues do indeed affect you, by making you unable to have any healthy relationships with anyone, leaving all the people you care about no longer caring about you.

    EDIT:

    I have a reason for my actions, people just choose to ignore those reasons and misinterpret me.

    People are not misintrepeting you, and you know it.

    I also tend to type very dryly and with periods when I’m upset (which is admittedly ~90% of the time but I can’t control that).

    You state that you are upset, ie, prone to a rude or aggressive interaction 90% of the time.

    People are not misinterpreting your behavior.

    Your behavior is abusive 90% of the time, and you just think that’s everyone else’s problem, not yours.

    … Would you want to be friends with someone who is pissed off and abusive 90% of the time?

    Honest, serious question:

    Are you capable of actually imagining interactions with yourself from the other person’s point of view?

    Can you do that, mentally transport yourself into someone else’s shoes, without immediately adding in all the rationalizations that you didn’t actually communicate, that only exist in your head?



  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.ziptoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldIt'll happen to you!
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    I mean, it could… but if you run the math on a 4k vs an 8k monitor, you’ll find that for most common monitor and tv sizes, and the distance you’re sitting from them…

    It basically doesn’t actually make any literally perceptible difference.

    Human eyes have … the equivalent of a maximum resolution, a maximum angular resolution.

    You’d have to have literally superhuman vision to be able to notice a difference in almost all space scenarios that don’t involve you owning a penthouse or mansion, it really only makes sense if you literally have a TV the size of an entire wall of a studio apartment, or use it for like a Tokyo / Times Square style giant building wall advertisement, or completely replace projection theatres with gigantic active screens.

    This doesn’t have 8k on it, but basically, buying an 8k monitor that you use at a desk is literally completely pointless unless your face is less than a foot away from it, and it only makes sense for like a TV in a living room if said TV is … like … 15+ feet wide, 7+ feet tall.