My brother didn’t vote and in person around family, he is not a Trump supporter but he is conservative. Publicly via social media, he’s never once said a bad thing about Trump and has never hesitated to strawman shit on Dems. During the run up to the election, he made some comments about Kamala after the first debate, and it was all just horseshit takes. I typed a dozen messages and deleted them because what I was going to send would have been one of those things you don’t come back from. Instead I’ve completely cut him out of my life and I’m on active avoidance. The only saving grace for him, is that I know he didn’t vote for Trump, which means almost nothing, but he didn’t actually do the worst thing. Because of that, in 4 years, I’m going to assess the damage of this Presidency and make a choice on if I will ever even consider seeing him again or if he’s dead to me. I will never forgive him and we will never have a relationship, but there’s a chance that we might both be able to go to familial gatherings, like funerals in the future.

For me, this isn’t a very difficult decision. We’ve never really been super close since he’s quite a bit older, but we were good. I’m fully prepared to miss significant events to avoid him. I’m not sure what your relationship with your father is like, but one thing you have to consider is how it’s going to affect anything else family related, like family reunions, funerals, weddings, holidays, etc. Make sure that you think of all of the effects this may have before jumping the gun and doing something you can’t undo. You can certainly try and salvage the relationship and have a serious heart to heart where you lay it all out, and if that’s not enough, then I suppose that the decision is easier. Alternatively, if you’re ready to be done, you have the option of sending him something with a reason, telling him what’s up and bye, or ghosting him. If you ghost him, that will make any chances of rebuilding a future relationship a lot harder.

Best of luck.

I don’t cut people out of my life because of their political views. I cut them out because they are racists, bigots, transphobes, fascists, and just terrible people. There are zero excuses to support a rapist who’s agenda is entirely around hurting people, fraud, and destabilizing geopolitics. Hanging with a Trump supporter and not talking about politics, is like hanging out with a Nazi and not talking about the Holocaust. At the end of the day, you’re just hanging out with a Nazi.

You’re never too old to make new friends. I’m mid 30’s and started a new job in a different city last year. Just talk to people casually, say good morning, ask how they are, just simple pleasantries. I haven’t hung out with these people mostly because of living proximity, but I’m chummy with most, we play some games together, and I think we enjoy each other’s company. I have little doubt that if I asked to hang out or grab a drink, people would do so if available. Most of these people are 5-10 years younger, so we do have a gap in life experiences, but I’ve found that the age gap matter less the older I get. I can give wisdom and tell stories of my life and their lives kind of make me feel a little younger again.

As someone that has just been screened for ADHD and waiting for my follow-up, I feel like I can relate to your experience. A lot of what you said resonates with my life other than the coke and Xanax. The weed is real, and unfortunately, the booze for me. I’ve gone through plenty of introspection and have identified places where I know I can be a turd friend. I noticed how I was negative a lot, and have taken conscious steps to not burden my friends. Don’t get me wrong, we’ll piss and moan about things, but I had to make the effort to be better. I’m not good and time estimating no matter how confident I am. If I’m meeting with people setting times, I will for sure over estimate what I think is right so I don’t make people wait. Really, my wife has been extremely invaluable in my adult life, and I’d probably be in a much worse place if not for that support.

I say all of this because as I think that you know, not all all negative actions are intentional or sometimes even recognizable when you’re doing it. I’ve lost sleep over saying the wrong thing or doing something that is a minor inconvenience because I feel so guilty. I feel like from your story, that maybe your friend has issues and isn’t intentionally screwing you. To parrot one of the other posts, I would say talk to your buddy about things that bother you. Don’t come in hot or anything, just ease into it. Anyone that is a real friend will listen to your concerns and at least try to make an effort. Some people are blind to their issues and maybe just needs someone to help them out.

Best of luck my dude. It’s tough out there and I hope you find your way through this one. Don’t be afraid to meet new people.

I’m jumping on the kde train. The experience has been solid since plasma 6 and the Wayland jump last year, especially if you are already stuck in the Nvidia family.

I think some of the more intelligent US Nazis are letting the bozos do their thing and riding the coat-tails and avoiding direct blame if things turn. I’m looking at a good chunk of the House and Senate.

Mama was running AMD and daddy Nvidia. This poor little one drew the short stick in the genetic lottery.