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Sorry, not sorry. If he begins this with “Men do not need a therapist.” (And many men do) And then declare that the women men need be soft and caring while verbally presenting the man as a hero who fights his daily battles… that’s just toxic bullshit as fuck.

I’m okay with somebody accepting and wanting traditional gender roles, everyone’s got their own taste in potential partners and need to find the person right for them.

But declaring what “men” need and then demanding not only traditional but toxically overblown gender roles for everyone is just… BAH! And the disapproval for therapy, or telling “men” that they don’t need therapy, only a mommy, when many of us do indeed need therapy… that’s just indicative of the most bullshit incel-alpha-baby-needs-a-mommy mindset.

If you’re a guy and in touch with your feelings (like me, for example), yes, lean on your partner if you need to and they are okay with it. If you are an emotional person, be emotional. But don’t demand or expect to just be able to vomit your shit on your partner and they being okay with it and then cleaning the corner of your mouth with a tissue… Your partner is not free therapy, do not treat them like somebody providing a service.

It’s even worse when you remember that Jaime is pronounced Haime (from whence Hamish)

That is correct. Greek Iakóbos to Latin Iacobus to Jakobus to late latin Jacomus to early French Jammes to english James

vs a more direct Yaaqob to Jacob or via Jakobus to Jacob

This also explains why the short form of James is Jim, via french Jaime

And how Jack and James and Jim and Jacob and Seamus and Thiego and Diego and Jaime and Giacomo, Iacopo and Hamish are all related.

San Diego <- Santiago <- Sant Iago <- Sanctus Iákōbos -> Sanct Iacobus -> Saint Iacomus -> Saint James

And Iákōbos from Hebrew Yaaqob

Does a mechanical pencil count?

Yes! Command line instructions are often universal instructions. This is imho a huge boon for Linux.

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Why do Danes all have a potato in their mouth?

Note to self: For learning a scandinavian language - learn Swedish instead of Danish.

Being the child of a tourist is not the same as being raised somewhere.

The kind of Ius Soli the US practices gives citizenship to the children of tourists and people being born in a plane flying over the country, without having been raised there.

Most european nations have special citizenship rights if you grew up in that nation or were born there after one of your parents has resided there at least some time.

Example Germany:

Children of non-German parents acquire German citizenship at birth if at least one parent has a permanent residence permit and resided in Germany for at least five years prior to the child’s birth.

Btw. after residing legally in Germany for 5 years the parent can themselves acquire german citizenship, so can the child upon turning 18, even if they weren’t born in Germany.

Example France:

Children born in France to foreign parents may acquire citizenship from age 13 subject to residence conditions. A child born in France to foreign parents becomes a French citizen automatically upon turning 18, provided that they reside in France on their 18th birthday and have had their primary residence in France for a total (but not necessarily continuous) period of at least 5 years since the age of 11. Children born in France to two stateless parents receive French nationality automatically at birth.

Also you can always go through the normal ways of acquiring citizenship. Upon turning 18 and having been raised in the country you usually fulfill all requirements for it.

The issues with https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Log_Cabin_Republicans seem similar to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Association_of_German_National_Jews, being gay isn’t a character trait, it’s a sexuality and its stands to reason that lots (although a minority) of gay people are generally conservative when it comes to every other issue than gay rights. And they deceive themselves into the idea that they can be “one of the good ones” and either that the party has already, or that they will move the party towards an accepting attitude.

LCR president Greg Angelo described the “preservation of LGBT rights and support for the LGBT community” as hallmarks of Donald Trump’s 2016 Presidential campaign, and asserted that support would continue during his presidency.

Ugh… top shitpost

People born in a country should have citizenship.

Why?

Behold: the Master Race

Hey, hey psst… if you need some… wink wink, nudge nudge

Yes, there is a strong case that voter suppression won him the race in 2016 and 2024

Eh… I’ll come out as a Brony here, albeit not of the clopping variety, which allows me to speak more freely.

There are many SFW and even child friendly spaces in Bronydom. Many of us have children ourselves and just enjoy the neurotics and fresh silliness of the show and even sillier subculture. The fandom is just chock full of nerdy references which often got picked up by the show, because the creators are huge nerds as well and love to signal to the knowledgeable audience. Just like Sponge Bob has lots of adult jokes hidden in child friendly dialogue.

Are there very, very much NSFW spaces in Bronydom? Yes, hell definitely, I’ve stumbled into and then quickly out again of a few… generally they are not worse than r34, but… you know… lowest possible bar. But r34 will definitely abuse anyone of the notion that THEIR specific fandom produces any less yucky stuff than ours does.

The problem is more that for a time Bronies were very loud, obnoxious and accumulated a toxic part of the fandom, before they were quarantined and shamed into the shadows. Personally I find it quite sad that us SFW Bronies often catch a lot of the shaming thrown at those who deserve it. SFW Brony expression (and NSFW if securely kept away from children) is quite fun and often comes without much of the toxic masculinity often associated with male fandoms.

I believe the Greeks do where the name originates from.

https://youtu.be/sDTf0-j_Dyk

Meh, I’m like really heavy, dangerously so even, and my many health problems (which don’t help with the physical attractiveness) originate from that. So no, I’m ugly and fat and in many, many regards I’m a loser. But I have other things going for me.

GF wants into this discussion, this is her words:

I wouldn’t call him the fattest, ugliest, looser nerd, but he is definitely fat and doesn’t conform to any classic ideal of male beauty. Instead, he is very gentle, loving and tender and makes me feel like a goddess. He also does what he said he would do: he is interested in me, not just because he has to ask, he actually wants to know what I think and feel. And he is not afraid to tell me his feelings, honest and vulnerable, even if they are actually embarrassing and he may even be ashamed of them. He wants to connect with me emotionally, honest and with his whole heart.

So I guess I’m making up for it with inner beauty and that’s precisely why I commented here:

I had already given up on love, I was a 40 years old, depressed, fat nerd with a career going nowhere. Really not physically attractive at all. I’ve been where so many of these Anons are. But through my significant other and the ones before her, I learned that you really don’t need to be tall, fit and conventionally attractive to find love.

“Just” respect your partner, be open, be honest, be gentle, be caring and be interested, really interested in what she thinks and does and feels.

For me the hardest part was lowering my defenses and being vulnerable with her, telling her even the things that I thought she would find unmanly or disgusting, everything I was and am still ashamed of. And sometimes it’s really hard to actually listen, to not just hear but listen, to not let her voice be drowned out in the multitude of voices from inside and outside your own head and things and media and events happening around you every day. I’ve really had to learn (and am still learning) to come to a calm focus and practice active listening. It’s not easy, but I do it because I love her, and she’s given me the mental stability and something to look forward to that has helped me start not only my weight loss journey, but also continue to work at becoming a better person, better listener and the man I want to be for her.

I’m far from perfect, I still mess things up, my weight loss progresses painfully slow, my mental health still has pretty bad days and I’ve fucked up listening again this week, just like last week. But I’ll be damned if I give up again. And she’s so incredibly supportive and appreciative, that I’m still wondering sometimes what the hell she sees in me and how I deserve someone so wonderful.

In my experience: He’s emotionally available, interested in her and her experience, actually listening, gentle and honest.

I’m about the fattest, ugliest, loser nerd around and if I can be in a relationship with a succesful, beautiful, adventurous woman, so can anon.