Generally, women are going to have boobs and wider hips and men generally have bigger feet. Obviously there’s a massive spectrum of human body shapes, but this is the main differentiation.
If I wear my (male) partner’s t-shirts, they’re just straight with no space for boobs and they don’t come in at the waist. Same with trousers, there’s a massive pouch in the crotch, too narrow on my hips and too loose at the waist. People like to wear things that best fit their bodies.
Thanks, I’m not from the US so have only seen little snippets.
Exciting! Where are you going?
People need to be sharing info here and through other channels. Pictures, videos, links to organised groups.
Yeah you shouldn’t have to, none of us should have to face prejudice. But talking to someone could help you learn how to deal with difficult situations, or manage your emotional reaction when something bad happens (I’m not trying to invalidate how you feel, feeling rage is justified, but finding more productive outlets for anger can be really helpful, I’ve found this for myself personally), or they can just be someone you can vent all these thoughts to about wanting to burn them all to the ground. They could also help you consider other practical/logistical solutions to problems you’re facing.
Well that’s a really good starting place :) If you did want to try therapy, being able to go in saying “I have these issues and I need to learn how to cope them” then you’ve got something to work on.
It would be helpful to find a therapist who is a specialist in trans issues, and hopefully they can help you work through what you’re struggling with. They can help you reflect on why you feel a certain way, or why certain things make you feel uncomfortable or how to cope with everyday things you have to face from other people. Sorry if I’m making any assumptions about what you need, but hopefully you get the gist of what I’m saying.
I wouldn’t say it’s essential, more one option out of a whole bunch you could use to improve yourself (though we pay for many essential things like housing, water, food… Welcome to life as we know it).
Therapy isn’t going to “fix” anything. It’s a way of helping you reflect on yourself, see where your problems are, give you some perspective and start to see things differently. It can help you understand why you have certain behaviours and traits and work on unpicking them or unlearning them. But like I said, lots of other things can help you get there too, like meeting new people and having good chats, taking drugs that change your perspective, travelling, reading books. All of the above combined.
Therapy is one tool that can assist personal growth. You could also try reading into Stoicism or make friends you can talk to candidly or take some acid.
It isn’t about style. Women’s sizes (e.g. 8, 10, 12) originally came from codes based on the variations between hip, waist and bust measurements.