Don’t worry about being embarrassed. This is your health and it is important. You don’t want to let things like this go on too long.

What are your alternatives? Just keep quiet about it and live in discomfort and let it get worse? Or spend a few moments POSSIBLY feeling embarrassed and getting the help you need? I say “possibly” because I doubt your parents will let you feel that way about something that is medically bothering you like this. Good parents will care and do what they can to help you.

Go get yourself taken care of. This is important.

I apparently used all 64GB of my RAM in a video game when using cheats and it crashed my computer lol

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Yeah this is going to definitely come down to a lot of subjective opinions. I was speaking more so in generalities where you’ll likely meet more guys into older women than you will women into older guys. But that also has a lot to do with the ages we’re talking about too because in high school to young adult years, many women definitely prefer older guys, but as women get older, that changes for some women. And the age is different here too. A guy is usually more willing to go much higher in age than a woman is. Whereas most guys seem to be drawn to older women throughout their lives through and through, until you get to a certain age, around midlife crisis age, where more guys do want younger women.

It also changes depending on cultures too, as I’m speaking for my area which can be drastically different than somewhere else in the world.

There are definitely outliers to all this too since this always comes back to personal preference.

A few things:

• experience. There’s a stereotype that older women are more experienced when it comes to sex and know their way around better than a younger woman would in pleasing a man. I think why that doesn’t go the other way is that men stereotypically get more lazy as they get older, finding ways to do less to get what they want or other ways (financial; sugar daddy) and they become less attractive whereas older women can be just as attractive, if not more, as they age or at least know how to maintain their beauty as they age.

• a bit of taboo. A lot of guys with “mom’s friends”/teacher fantasies. It’s hot to think about one of your mom’s hot friends hitting on you to some guys. Then there’s the taboo of engaging in sexual activities with someone much older than you like your teacher in a setting that isn’t socially acceptable. We like what we can’t or shouldn’t have, often times. Speaking as a guy and having male friends, we’ve talked a bit about our fantasies like this and most of us have these fantasies.

• relative age. You may be younger in your 20’s but most men consuming porn are probably much older and the women who are older to you are actually their age. So it’s not always “milfs” because what is a milf to you is just a woman to a guy of an older age and he may not be interested in younger women and just into women around his age.

Recently I’d say. She had a lot of good qualities and we had good times, but we ended on a sour note when it became apparent to me that she was selfish and after she gaslit me.

I had long been bothered by her practically ignoring me after the afternoon hours. I felt really alone most evenings and nights. I’d call her and she wouldn’t answer or text her and wouldn’t hear from her until the next day. I’m 99% sure she wasn’t cheating on me, but nevertheless, it still hurt to know she was often ignoring me.

When I brought up how lonely I felt, her response was “it’s not my job (to make you not feel lonely)”. I didn’t realize it was…? That’s not at all what I was saying or trying to insinuate. I was trying to make her understand that she would tell me she would call me later that evening and never do so and I would make attempts to contact her and she wouldn’t respond. I felt alone and out of place.

Then she said some stuff to her ex that made me feel uneasy but I simply asked her to elaborate a bit on what she said. This is when she gaslit me to turn the problem back on me and in my face, saying I was making the situation about myself.

Then she spent the rest of the day enjoying herself and never once reaching out to me. It was highlighted more so on that day due to it being my dad’s 5th anniversary of him passing. But she didn’t know and I wasn’t holding that against her. It just so happened to coincide on this day and made me realize how selfish she usually was to me and how bothered it made me feel.

And then funny enough was how she said to me “I reached out to you and I felt alone.” Huh…where have I heard that before? And that remark was made because I simply asked her to elaborate on the weird thing she said to her ex. Saying “a lot would have to change for us to get back together”. The fact you have conversations like this with your ex when we’re supposed to be together is wild on its own, but the fact you said that sounds weird for someone who’s supposed to be in a committed relationship. But I didn’t say that and I didn’t react negatively to it. I simply asked her to explain what she meant by saying that to her ex.

And her response was to blow up on me for it and say I was making it all about myself 🤷‍♂️

Oh well. Good riddance to that relationship. I’ve been single ever since but I’d rather be single and at peace than to be treated and talked to like that.

It’s a shame and I sometimes miss her, but then I’m reminded of that and all the selfish ways she was with me and I’m happy to be single than to be there again.