I’m not even American, but I see constant posts about how “if you hate two men you’re part of the problem” and “he’s not coming after your money” or something.

Did they ever leave?

It’s sexist but an older man and a younger woman is judged totally different to an older woman and a younger man.

Ideally we’d just ask if both are happy and everything is healthy.

Cause of his right wing extremism? Could and should are two totally different things here.

Not everyone will use it. Many right wing types spreading divisive or incorrect information, for example.