The basic way an airplane works actually is simple and intuitive: it meets the air at an angle and deflects it downward. The equal and opposite reaction to accelerating that mass of air is an upward force on the wing.
There is, of course a whole lot of finesse on top of that with differences in wing design having huge impacts on the performance and handling of aircraft due to various aerodynamic phenomena which are anything but simple or intuitive. A thin, flat wing will fly though, and balsa wood toy airplanes usually use exactly that.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lift_(force)#Simplified_physical_explanations_of_lift_on_an_airfoil
I’m not going to tell you what to do. I am going to point out the red flags you cited and ask what you would say to a friend who was considering dating someone who behaves like this.
In other words, he did not respect your relationship when you were in one.
He handles struggles in a relationship by badmouthing his partner to others,
and uses an armchair diagnosis as an excuse to get out of a relationship instead of just saying it’s not working for him anymore like an adult.
He doesn’t care about your preferences, and tries to manipulate you when they don’t match his.