Judged by whom?

Right, but if they keep talking while the other person is trying to talk, that’s rude.

Um… anything? I ask people for help all the time. And then they help me and are happy to do so. People like helping other people. However, I’ve discovered that they don’t like:

• Having all their suggestions shot down without due consideration.
• When the person they are helping isn’t putting in much effort.
• When the person they are helping considers their help worthless.
• When they are the only person the person they are helping is calling for help.
• When the person they are helping always complains about things, but never appreciates the progress they’ve made, the help they’ve received, or the options they have.

Helping a friend and seeing them succeed is one of the best feelings in the world. Trying to help someone and seeing them flounder because they refuse to listen to sound advice and do the obvious but difficult work is a shitty feeling.

Yeah, it’s weird and cringy how into it some adults are. I think part of it is status, though. Everyone knows Disney is expensive, so taking your family is a way to show off your status to everyone with the pics you take for social media.

BuT MUh ViolEnT RevOlUtiOn!!!

Well said. Some of the people who post here are just nuts. Or edgy teens. Keep fighting the good fight for actually having nuance and common sense.

I have not once had a friend ask me these sorts of questions. You need to make different friends.

Some books I enjoyed when I was a kid that didn’t fit the trips above:

• The Contender
• The Tripod Series
• Call It Courage

Tribalism. They’ll find a way to think Trump is good, because that is a necessity for tribal membership for them.

Thanks I hate it.

I’m confused as to what your objection is.

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For all the reasons others have described, this is problematic. However, I propose a middle ground: develop permanent, reversible, side-effect-free birth control, and apply it to every child at 10 years old. When you turn 18, you can have it removed. You just need to show up at a government office, sign a form, and have the procedure completed. It is completely free, and you are out the door in an hour. The treatment can be reapplied at any time.

What happens? No more accidental pregnancies. No more getting knocked up in high school. No more scares after one night stands. No more becoming impregnated by a rapist. Everyone can fuck to their heart’s content, but babies only get made if both people actually want a baby. Most of the problems you are talking about typically occur when either one or both of the parents don’t want or weren’t expecting a child. Make pregnancy opt-in, and you’ll solve 90% of the problems.

Ooh, I’ll beat your unpopularity here.

Cycling on the sidewalk in suburban areas is often safer than cycling on the road, and should not be discouraged.

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Big shout out for enumerating questions. Makes it clear you need an answer for each one. Makes it easier to follow up if you need more info on a particular question. Makes it easier to pester the person with “hey, I need an answer to 2 by EOD or project deadlines will be significantly impacted” (copied to your PM).

People’s poor reading comprehension is annoying. But the right move is to do everything you can to get the answers you need, creating a polite paper trail as you go. Usually the other person will get you the info you need sooner if you pester them enough, with the implied threat that you are building a case against them if the project is delayed. Because if they don’t answer your questions in a timely fashion when you do everything possible to get the answers you need, it is their fault.