masking is an extremely common coping technique that neurodivergents teach themselves and, yes, also exhausting. (and i would dm’ but i don’t mind sharing it here).

i’ve gotten several forms of help; but the most useful was talk therapy. i had to try with multiple different psychologists until i learned that they’re not all the same and all of them are human beings with their own human foibles; so you’ll have to actively listen and analyze your therapist as much as they’re trained to analyze you. the worst help i got were from psychiatrists who focused on pushed medications that were mere bandages for the problems i had.

no, if you had the ability to create one and chose not to.

also no, if you didn’t have the ability, realize that and start working at the reasons why. (in my case it turned out to be autism).

i’m on the spectrum too and one of the things that life has taught me the hard way is not to take life advice from neurotypicals; it’s not that they’re wrong or malicious, it’s only that they don’t have a life that’s anything like yours so their advice usually doesn’t work or it’s not applicable.

neurodivergence requires you to build your own mechanisms for handling the shit life throws at you and it also guarantees that you’ll fail more often than not if you don’t get professionally trained help; what you’re feeling will keep happening until you do get that help.

put that healthcare you got to use.

the people on the american side mostly didn’t; while a significant portion, but still a minority, of the people on the mexican side did not.

Np and I can see that you’ve gotten an introduction to the political culture war that’s being waged on lemmy (assuming you weren’t already aware). Lol

One more piece of info that I wished someone had given me when I first started is that a huge majority of lemmings are cool; but there are significantly more center-right users than leftist users so you’ll see more of the vitriol you witnessed in this post coming from the center-right instances like lemmy.world and lem.ee, but the leftists are a scrappy bunch so they’ll respond in kind and mostly from hexbear; hence the defederations.

People frown upon lemmy.world because it’s a politically American center-right instance on a leftist social media platform that bans leftist discourse via defederation.

If your politics align w them and you don’t mind them deciding what you can and can’t see on your behalf, you’ll do fine there.

I switched from lemmy.world because of that and switched to an instance that doesn’t make a habit of defederating from the most active instances (ie hexbear) and there’s also another center-right instance named lemm.ee that also doesn’t defederate.