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  • Grool The Demon@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldToo true
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    2 days ago

    My wife and I are in very similar circumstances. We do try but I will admit it’s become so easy to be a homebody. We’ve had some health scares this past few years and been focusing on that. We’ve finally been getting out more again and trying to branch out and make good friendships. I’ll definitely take some of your suggestions.


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    Right? I dwell and think heavily about the meaning of things, the reasons for injustices, philosophical flaws, historical events, the paths that got us to today, and general answers to things. I love deep dive conversations about just about anything from movies, to history, science and tech tech, or just general catching up. I’m up for anything and yearn to share or learn something new. Yet, I can’t count on my fingers and toes how often I get called “heavy” then shortly thereafter hear some major bias or hangup that effectively stops the conversation because that friend’s comfort or energy has waned. I assume my comfort level is just higher than average. Odd, considering I’m pretty introverted but can really open up once I’ve gotten to know you. I’ve been to therapy, faced a lot of adversity and abuse in life, and I’ve been to the brink more than once… Maybe fewer people have faced that or are willing to share than I thought. I sometimes think it is me but anymore I wonder if maybe it’s the culture. The US definitely has a friendship pandemic and the reasons for that weigh heavily on me. Culture in the US has become so isolated and xenophobic. What are we to do when everyone is becoming lone wolves that refuse to be apart of a community or something real?

    Edited for context and sentence structure.


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    Anyone else feel like they’re great at making friends but then something gets in the way to just end it? Moral compasses, politics, work culture, religion, race, taboos, talking points, intellect, gender… Like all that has become so weaponized that it ruins conversations and friendships now. I feel like I’m too open and honest and willing to build love and trust that it puts people off.



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  • The fact that everything is controlled through “The Cloud” and some godforsaken subscription service is so terribly sad, funny, and horrifying at the same time. We’ve literally found every conceivable way to gather and sell people’s data while simultaneously milking them out of every last cent with the whole FOMO mentality driven through every piece of hardware and software now sold. It is just absolutely fucking preposterous. We’re living in a virtual hellscape that doesn’t seem to be going away anytime soon.





  • I am American. The answer is both a Yes and a No. It doesn’t have so much to do with stupidity, but that our education system has been slowly dismantled since the 90’s. Rather than teaching civics, critical thinking, and basic knowledge about government, economics and their inner workings we’ve setup a system that favors test scores and nothing else. Has that made people more stupid? Possibly, but I think it has more to do with only learning the answers rather than how to get there. There’s just this huge in-between of information that a lot of people don’t seem to be able to work out on their own without having a lot of hints of what the outcome will be. It saddens me to see people’s gears just come to a grinding halt trying to work out simple solutions on things.

    I think the biggest bane in America is our work culture. We’ve setup a dog eat dog system of trying to strive for the most success at any cost. Work culture in America is fickle, back stabby, and rife with favoritism over quality of work. The biggest lie we were ever told was that we could be the next Bill Gates, or Elon Musk, or some other rich billionaire mogul. The biggest lie we were ever told was to invest in the stock market and have a 401k. The biggest lie we were ever told is that if we worked our asses off that we’d automatically be successful. America is just a grindhouse that treats the working class like shit and unless you decide to be a bridge burning greedy fucking asshole you’ll never really get anywhere with any real upward mobility.

    Lastly, I will say that America and American’s themselves has become more and more isolationist in the last couple of decades. Maybe it is social media and the echo chambers they cause. Maybe it is the fake friendships and feeling like you are just collecting trading cards instead of making real insightful and meaningful relationships. Maybe it is the dog eat dog work culture or the keeping up with the Jones’s mentality of things like Instagram and Facebook. Maybe it is a bit of everything. The fact remains that there is a huge friendship pandemic in this country and it only gets worse and worse as many of us further isolate ourselves from reality, critical thinking, and the prospect of being really challenged by the people we could be surrounding ourselves with.

    All of this has culminated in a culture that is becoming more work and money focused, less people and social relationship focused, and by and large more shallow and less well rounded and interesting overall. No generation is immune from it either. Whether you are young or old you can fall victim to all I’ve outlined above. Most people have let the technology and systems in place take away their freedom of thought and originality to instead become a husk of the human potential they once were or could be again because it is easier to fall prey to hive mind apathy and cynicism than to fight for your own uniqueness and truer sense of self.




  • I tried to explain this exact notion to a therapist once that kept telling me to be the change I want to see and become an activist or an entrepreneur. With what? My looks? Hey… You don’t happen to have a million dollars of seed money you can give me to get started do you? They did not like my tone very much