Sorry to hear about yours, but I am also one that has been through much adversity and abuse (and healing). Most of us that have been through it, and worked through it, can’t talk about it enough because we want to help others figure things out quicker.
I’m in the U.S. too, and a far left person in a far right state/county/town to boot. But, I’m at least close to a metro area that is much more diverse. I personally don’t even need much social interaction these days, I’m fine with myself, my wife, and our cats. However, she still needs people, so we do our best to find the other people like us. We realized we are more likely to be in libraries, independent coffee shops, book stores, and museums, rather than bars, sporting events, etc. So, we try to spend more time at places where we are more likely to meet people like us.
I’m sorry to hear about the health issues, but glad to hear that you and the wife have been getting out more! Yes, it does seem to get easier and easier to become a homebody lol. Good luck to both of you in finding some good connections with good people!